Believe in YOU!!!

Hi Everyone,

We in our 3rd month of the year and this is only my 2nd post but I have had “writers block”, where I start another article but never finish it or I have an idea but have no idea how to start the article.

This one I had to share because it really messed with my mind to a point where I was even talking to someone I have never met about it but that person assisted in a lot of ways. Also had my usual life coach and brother on the side helping me see a different side of it.

The blog is titled “Believe in YOU!!” as I had a moment where I stopped believing in me and started believing the words coming out of someone else’s mouth who I have never worked with but always come against in these Soweto Finals or Big Derby matches. It made me realise that we allow people to control how much we believe in ourselves and our abilities.

What Happened?

Well this weekend was the U17 Gauteng Future Champions Qualifiers for the international tournament that takes place at Nike Centre in Soweto. I had about 8 boys at the time that had been selected (later dropped 3) to play for the SAFA JHB team. The night before the tournament started I was having a conversation with two of my boys and just chatting in general before we go and play some indoor soccer together and the boys tell me that their SAFA coach (which is the one that we always meet in Soweto matches) claims that I am a “SH&%” coach.

I am not going to lie that messed me up big time, my mind started racing all over the place, could this be the way everyone looks at me, am I really that type of coach where people can walk around and just say things that like to players that I am coaching. I don’t want to be that coach that teams just feel they will walk over my team. I want to be that coach that if you see me you need to be afraid because you know if you want to win you going to have to work for that win.

That’s the impression I have always thought I left or wanted to leave but by hearing that it messed me up. I couldn’t sleep that evening and I needed some one to talk to, I needed to hear that I wasn’t a “Sh%&” coach. I wanted some one to tell me how amazing I am so I turned to my brother and life coach (Coach Nana).

Bare in mind this is like at midnight and I drop him a message, he actually responds and we chat for about 30 minutes and he made me realize something, “Why does his opinion of me matter?”

And it was at that moment I realized we give people way too much power over us. We tend to keep wanting to get approval from other people on what we doing, we seek for praise in others and kind of disapprove of our own praise.

We forget to believe in what we doing because the next person doesn’t believe in us but what we don’t realize is that not everyone wants to see us succeed and in order for some people to succeed they need to get you out the way and the only way they can do that is by ensuring that YOU stop believing in YOU because once you stop believing in what you are doing then your focus is now off the end product but more on getting acceptance from everyone.

Its easy to Trust the Process but in order to trust the process you got to believe in YOU because then the process is useless.

I am a huge J.Cole fan and i always get asked the same question, why? I would always answer and say it’s the words that speak to me but today I realized that was just something I was making up because I couldn’t put my finger on why I enjoyed this stranger’s music so much. What made him different to the Drakes and the Kendrick Lamar's?

I think the answer was always in my face, J.Cole believed in himself and his ability even when the world was against him, he kept doing things his way and wasn’t concerned whether he failed or not. He had a message he needed to get out there and he got it out his way. He would announce that he is dropping an album on a Monday and the album will be out on the Friday and the album succeeds.

That was his way of doing it and while reading his GQ article today it made me realise that here we have a guy that took the RAP game, did it his way and still succeeded but we sit and worry about people who don’t even know what they want to do with their lives.

Moral of the story is:

Believe in yourself even when no one believes in you because some one is watching from a distance, supporting your every move and cheering you on in their way but not only that:

YOUR SUCCESS IS DETERMINED BY HOW MUCH YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

Coach B